Aside from the vampires in movies, have you ever met an 'energy vampire'? How'd you deal with it? Did you agree with the author's advice and descriptions of an 'energy vampire'? How will you approach the "energy vampire" in your life next time?
I've met somebody just like this, and it is very emotionally and mentally draining just to talk to them. They have such a pessimistic view on life, and it seems like there is nothing that can be done to change their mind. I have the type of personality where, if I think there's a problem, I'll do anything to try and fix it. I feel like I've tried everything to get this person to act more positively, and nothing has worked, which is even more draining. I've allowed myself to also get "pulled in" as the author says, and I've only recently realized how difficult it is to get out of that state. I agree with the author's advice, especially her third point, because of personal experiences. I think her three steps in dealing with these people are fairly accurate. A person's overly pessimistic attitude can radiate on to you, and cause you to feel the same way, become overly critical of a person or constantly complain for no reason.
I've definitely known a few "energy vampires," and like the article describes it can be really emotionally draining to hang around them or talk to them. I work with someone just like this, and her constant complaining and pessimistic outlook wears on everyone else after a while. I've realized that no matter how hard you try, you can never really change their outlook because they're never willing to change themselves. I thought the author's tips on dealing with these people were accurate. Sometimes it's just best to keep your distance to avoid being pulled in by their negativity.
Like my classmates, I have met an energy vampire. It can be emotionally draining or frustrating to talk to someone like this. I had a friend like this and regardless of how many times I'd point out something good about a situation or positive she would just respond with a negative comment or something bad about what was happening. I agree with the author's advice on dealing with energy vampires because you can't make them more optimistic or easier to deal with, the only thing you can do is control how you let them affect you.
This may be a bit harsh, but I feel like most of the "energy vampires" I've encountered were at IHA. I know I probably am guilty of this, too, but teenagers in general complain a lot. IHA's student environment fosters this attitude in us, especially as seniors. I have to learn how not to be "sucked in" by the tendency and temptation to complain or by the negative energy it creates. The best way I've come across in dealing with complainers, pessimists, and "energy vampires" is to focus mostly on what I need to get done or on my own outlook of the situation. While that's difficult to do, it is certainly worth it.
I've met a few "energy vampires" in my life. I'll be the first to admit that sometimes I complain a lot and my bad mood seems to have an influence on the people around me. However, I know that those moods are just passing and that i truly am i generally positive person even though sometimes i might not show it. When i come across a true "energy vampire" i try to ignore them and seem like i am not concerned with what they're saying so that they can go and try to find someone else who might be interested in their complaints.
I have definitely encountered some "energy vampires," in my life, and although I think there is a little bit of this in each of us - especially at IHA - I also think that true "energy vampires" are recognizable in that it almost consumes their life. I think that for most of these people there is probably an underlying issue, but the negativity that they radiate pushes people away to the point that no one wants to help them or find out what is underneath. One particular case that I can think of is someone that is in my family and therefore I cannot avoid, but I have come to realize that I do have a great deal of control over how and how often I interact with that person, which has allowed me to do as the author said and limit my contact, leading me to also not get pulled in to the almost alternate reality in which that person seems to live.
Unfortunately for me, I know an "energy vampire." Although I can agree with Mary Grace and Ellie that I do complain, there is definitely a difference between an "energy vampire" and an IHA girl. There was nothing I could do with dealing with the "energy vampire" in my life except for limiting contact. Though I do see them a lot, my communication with them is limited. I do agree with the author that this is the best way to deal with an "energy vampire" because though they can be condescending and negative, you still have to be a nice person and not hurt their feelings.
I have definitely met an "energy vampire". It is emotionally draining to talk to them. I have tried to be nice to them but by the time I am done talking to them, I'm just in a bad mood. It's almost like they transfer their negative energy to me. It's just like in physics "energy is neither created nor destroyed, but rather transferred from one party to the next". I think that's how it works. Energy is transferred from person to person. An energy vampire, is usually filled with negative energy causing these feelings. But yea, you still have to be a nice person.
How will you approach the "energy vampire" in your life next time? I think that we all can be energy vampires in our worst of moods (or maybe this is me being one). I personally think my mom is an energy vampire because she knows just how to turn my mood upside down. I really can't follow the authors advice in her sense, but I can when it is one of my friends. I let them have their space and stay clear of them for the time period. It may sound passive of me, but I feel even more rude asking about it at an inappropriate time. I think I'll continue dealing with energy vampires the way I have been since it is closely related to the author's reasoning, and I will have to try not to be an energy vampire.
I have definitely met "energy vampires" before in my life. I am not a person that dwells on all of the negative things in life so when I am around people like this I try to get out of the situation. I do not like to be around people who are so negative all time and I feel like that happens a lot of the time in running. There are a few people on the team who no matter what will say that they are going to do bad and who cares about it anyway. When you are around people like that your own positive thoughts begin to be affected by them. I agree with what the author says with trying to avoid the situation. Sometimes I have said to the person to stop being so negative but other times I cannot be bothered and simply walk away.
'Energy vampires' are all around us. The people who I have encountered that display the descriptions mentioned in the article are typically people who I do not like to surround myself with... The way in which I dealt with the 'energy vampire' was to allow their commentary to go "in one ear and out the other." I know that everyone acts the way they do for a reason and I am the only person I have control over. I am the only person who can allow something to change the way I think; I agree with the author's opinion that having the ability to recognize a person who displays these qualities is the best way to help yourself. Personally, I believe it is important to associate and interact with a person like this because there must be something good about them. I believe it is important to understand yourself and recognize how you are affected by others around you. I think that it depends on the individuals and the environment, but either way a person does not deserve to be ignored. Also where is the line to differentiate between someone who is always having a bad day and an 'energy vampire'?
I definitely know people who are energy vampires. After realizing that a person is an energy sucker I started to distance myself alittle from the person but not enough for them to realize I was. Also, I would make sure that there were always other people around when I hung out with them.
I definitely know people who are energy vampires. After realizing that a person is an energy sucker I started to distance myself alittle from the person but not enough for them to realize I was. Also, I would make sure that there were always other people around when I hung out with them.
I do know of many people who are energy vampires. They just have friendships so they have someone to push all of their problems onto and their friendship is more work than its worth. Of course, I try to avoid these kinds of people but it gets hard. Often you don't realize that people are energy vampires until you are too far into a friendship to just cut it off. People don't open up with their vampire-ness until they become more comfortable with you. Then you are "so close" according to the vampire that you feel uncomfortable or can't cut off the friendship. It is hard to cut ties with an energy vampire but if people try to cut off ties the second they realize then they can avoid energy vampires.
I definitely know people who are energy vampires. They feed on people who will just sit there and listen to their problems. When you meet someone like this it is definitely a tiring friendship but its almost impossible to escape. Everyone has an energy vampire in themselves but some more then others. The best way to handle a situation like that is to either a. let them just talk and talk and talk and look like your listening, b. slowly break away from the friendship or c. only talk to them over text. These may seem mean but its really the only way. It definitely is hard to cut ties with someone since you have become so close to them but sadly its necessary.
I think that everyone has met "energy vampires" or have come into contact with a negative person who sucks the life out of everything in their lives. The world is filled with so many different personalities and many people happen to have negative outlooks on life. My only advice is to stay true to who you are and what you believe and try to keep the emotions and feelings of others at bay and out of your daily worries.
I have definitely met an 'energy vampire' various times throughout my life. I think I actually had a conversation with my friend who I believe to be a "fun sucker" yesterday. Let's just say that the conversation ended up with me not replying to his text messages because they were exhibiting overly dramatic and critical attitudes towards their self. I feel like some days I am able to deal with this irritating attitude while other days I just can't take it so instead of saying something that will bother them I do not reply. I agree with the author but I also feel that you should follow what you believe is right to do. Next time I witness one of these energy vampires I am going to try my best to limit my contact and try not to get pulled into their problems.
I definitely have met an "energy vampire" many times during my life. Their issues are very draining and I think that they often like to hear them-self talk. I think that their way of dealing with life is talking about every single problem that they have to prove that those are actual problems. Usually I tune this person out until they stop talking. I do agree with the author's view of energy vampire. Their advice is also realistic. They next time I see an energy vampire, I will try not to let them get to me and limit their influence in my life. If possible, I'll try to only socialize with them when absolutely necessary because they could have a really negative impact on my life and my attitude.
I've met somebody just like this, and it is very emotionally and mentally draining just to talk to them. They have such a pessimistic view on life, and it seems like there is nothing that can be done to change their mind. I have the type of personality where, if I think there's a problem, I'll do anything to try and fix it. I feel like I've tried everything to get this person to act more positively, and nothing has worked, which is even more draining. I've allowed myself to also get "pulled in" as the author says, and I've only recently realized how difficult it is to get out of that state. I agree with the author's advice, especially her third point, because of personal experiences. I think her three steps in dealing with these people are fairly accurate. A person's overly pessimistic attitude can radiate on to you, and cause you to feel the same way, become overly critical of a person or constantly complain for no reason.
ReplyDeleteI've definitely known a few "energy vampires," and like the article describes it can be really emotionally draining to hang around them or talk to them. I work with someone just like this, and her constant complaining and pessimistic outlook wears on everyone else after a while. I've realized that no matter how hard you try, you can never really change their outlook because they're never willing to change themselves. I thought the author's tips on dealing with these people were accurate. Sometimes it's just best to keep your distance to avoid being pulled in by their negativity.
ReplyDeleteLike my classmates, I have met an energy vampire. It can be emotionally draining or frustrating to talk to someone like this. I had a friend like this and regardless of how many times I'd point out something good about a situation or positive she would just respond with a negative comment or something bad about what was happening. I agree with the author's advice on dealing with energy vampires because you can't make them more optimistic or easier to deal with, the only thing you can do is control how you let them affect you.
ReplyDeleteThis may be a bit harsh, but I feel like most of the "energy vampires" I've encountered were at IHA. I know I probably am guilty of this, too, but teenagers in general complain a lot. IHA's student environment fosters this attitude in us, especially as seniors. I have to learn how not to be "sucked in" by the tendency and temptation to complain or by the negative energy it creates. The best way I've come across in dealing with complainers, pessimists, and "energy vampires" is to focus mostly on what I need to get done or on my own outlook of the situation. While that's difficult to do, it is certainly worth it.
ReplyDeleteI've met a few "energy vampires" in my life. I'll be the first to admit that sometimes I complain a lot and my bad mood seems to have an influence on the people around me. However, I know that those moods are just passing and that i truly am i generally positive person even though sometimes i might not show it. When i come across a true "energy vampire" i try to ignore them and seem like i am not concerned with what they're saying so that they can go and try to find someone else who might be interested in their complaints.
ReplyDeleteI have definitely encountered some "energy vampires," in my life, and although I think there is a little bit of this in each of us - especially at IHA - I also think that true "energy vampires" are recognizable in that it almost consumes their life. I think that for most of these people there is probably an underlying issue, but the negativity that they radiate pushes people away to the point that no one wants to help them or find out what is underneath. One particular case that I can think of is someone that is in my family and therefore I cannot avoid, but I have come to realize that I do have a great deal of control over how and how often I interact with that person, which has allowed me to do as the author said and limit my contact, leading me to also not get pulled in to the almost alternate reality in which that person seems to live.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately for me, I know an "energy vampire." Although I can agree with Mary Grace and Ellie that I do complain, there is definitely a difference between an "energy vampire" and an IHA girl. There was nothing I could do with dealing with the "energy vampire" in my life except for limiting contact. Though I do see them a lot, my communication with them is limited. I do agree with the author that this is the best way to deal with an "energy vampire" because though they can be condescending and negative, you still have to be a nice person and not hurt their feelings.
ReplyDeleteI have definitely met an "energy vampire". It is emotionally draining to talk to them. I have tried to be nice to them but by the time I am done talking to them, I'm just in a bad mood. It's almost like they transfer their negative energy to me. It's just like in physics "energy is neither created nor destroyed, but rather transferred from one party to the next". I think that's how it works. Energy is transferred from person to person. An energy vampire, is usually filled with negative energy causing these feelings. But yea, you still have to be a nice person.
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ReplyDeleteI think that we all can be energy vampires in our worst of moods (or maybe this is me being one). I personally think my mom is an energy vampire because she knows just how to turn my mood upside down. I really can't follow the authors advice in her sense, but I can when it is one of my friends. I let them have their space and stay clear of them for the time period. It may sound passive of me, but I feel even more rude asking about it at an inappropriate time. I think I'll continue dealing with energy vampires the way I have been since it is closely related to the author's reasoning, and I will have to try not to be an energy vampire.
I have definitely met "energy vampires" before in my life. I am not a person that dwells on all of the negative things in life so when I am around people like this I try to get out of the situation. I do not like to be around people who are so negative all time and I feel like that happens a lot of the time in running. There are a few people on the team who no matter what will say that they are going to do bad and who cares about it anyway. When you are around people like that your own positive thoughts begin to be affected by them. I agree with what the author says with trying to avoid the situation. Sometimes I have said to the person to stop being so negative but other times I cannot be bothered and simply walk away.
ReplyDelete'Energy vampires' are all around us. The people who I have encountered that display the descriptions mentioned in the article are typically people who I do not like to surround myself with... The way in which I dealt with the 'energy vampire' was to allow their commentary to go "in one ear and out the other." I know that everyone acts the way they do for a reason and I am the only person I have control over. I am the only person who can allow something to change the way I think; I agree with the author's opinion that having the ability to recognize a person who displays these qualities is the best way to help yourself. Personally, I believe it is important to associate and interact with a person like this because there must be something good about them. I believe it is important to understand yourself and recognize how you are affected by others around you. I think that it depends on the individuals and the environment, but either way a person does not deserve to be ignored. Also where is the line to differentiate between someone who is always having a bad day and an 'energy vampire'?
ReplyDeleteI definitely know people who are energy vampires. After realizing that a person is an energy sucker I started to distance myself alittle from the person but not enough for them to realize I was. Also, I would make sure that there were always other people around when I hung out with them.
ReplyDeleteI definitely know people who are energy vampires. After realizing that a person is an energy sucker I started to distance myself alittle from the person but not enough for them to realize I was. Also, I would make sure that there were always other people around when I hung out with them.
ReplyDeleteI do know of many people who are energy vampires. They just have friendships so they have someone to push all of their problems onto and their friendship is more work than its worth. Of course, I try to avoid these kinds of people but it gets hard. Often you don't realize that people are energy vampires until you are too far into a friendship to just cut it off. People don't open up with their vampire-ness until they become more comfortable with you. Then you are "so close" according to the vampire that you feel uncomfortable or can't cut off the friendship. It is hard to cut ties with an energy vampire but if people try to cut off ties the second they realize then they can avoid energy vampires.
ReplyDeleteI definitely know people who are energy vampires. They feed on people who will just sit there and listen to their problems. When you meet someone like this it is definitely a tiring friendship but its almost impossible to escape. Everyone has an energy vampire in themselves but some more then others. The best way to handle a situation like that is to either a. let them just talk and talk and talk and look like your listening, b. slowly break away from the friendship or c. only talk to them over text. These may seem mean but its really the only way. It definitely is hard to cut ties with someone since you have become so close to them but sadly its necessary.
ReplyDeleteI think that everyone has met "energy vampires" or have come into contact with a negative person who sucks the life out of everything in their lives. The world is filled with so many different personalities and many people happen to have negative outlooks on life. My only advice is to stay true to who you are and what you believe and try to keep the emotions and feelings of others at bay and out of your daily worries.
ReplyDeleteI have definitely met an 'energy vampire' various times throughout my life. I think I actually had a conversation with my friend who I believe to be a "fun sucker" yesterday. Let's just say that the conversation ended up with me not replying to his text messages because they were exhibiting overly dramatic and critical attitudes towards their self. I feel like some days I am able to deal with this irritating attitude while other days I just can't take it so instead of saying something that will bother them I do not reply. I agree with the author but I also feel that you should follow what you believe is right to do. Next time I witness one of these energy vampires I am going to try my best to limit my contact and try not to get pulled into their problems.
ReplyDeleteI definitely have met an "energy vampire" many times during my life. Their issues are very draining and I think that they often like to hear them-self talk. I think that their way of dealing with life is talking about every single problem that they have to prove that those are actual problems. Usually I tune this person out until they stop talking. I do agree with the author's view of energy vampire. Their advice is also realistic. They next time I see an energy vampire, I will try not to let them get to me and limit their influence in my life. If possible, I'll try to only socialize with them when absolutely necessary because they could have a really negative impact on my life and my attitude.
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